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Just wanted to check in and let my readers know that after the last year, 2012, I need a fresh start. This year was full of super duper highs and super duper lows. So in the new year I plan on letting you in what really went on over the past year and what to look forward to in the coming year.

I want to tweak my blog, add some new items, and increase my reader base. So thanks to those of you that started this insane journey with me and to those of you who are going to follow me through 2013.

This blog will get better, I promise!

healing process in work

It has been ages since I have been on this blog. Seeing as it was started to document our families lives during the adventure of adding bay number 4 to the family thus making the parent to child ratios 2 to 1. But as you all know we suffered a loss of that pregnancy. So I then tried to make it a normal blog about day to day life but that didn't fit well.

So part way through and experiment of changing my habits towards my hubby- or at least adding a few new ones I got sick. Really really sick. Like migraine after migraine, and tummy issues like I hadn't had in what I thought was forever. Little did I know I had had those same GI issues about 10 years prior..... yes I was pregnant again.

It was not planned, it was actually prevented- word of advice old condoms can expire BEFORE their date----- just saying. They- whoever they are, call it a rainbow baby, a baby that comes right after a loss. We were excited and terrified, I was definitely the latter.....

We held off on announcing the pregnancy seeing we had suffered such a horrific loss and honestly I was in shock. Part of me didn't want to hear the comments about isn't it too soon, and yes I got those, I didn't want to hear about being careless- because we really weren't.

So finally we got the first sonogram and all looked well, and then the next appointment and the heart beat was good and strong and now here we are at 20 weeks. All the organs are there and working, all the bits and pieces are present and accounted for and the growth is great. The heart rate is a good 141, and I feel him or her move and wiggle all the time.

I hate to say it but I have kept my heart very protected through this pregnancy, and wasn't going to touch this blog, but then I thought about it and I should at least celebrate this child because he or she is so wanted. Even if I am scared senseless of a loss again. So cautiously dip my toe into this blog again, and will bring you all through our journey of becoming 2 to 1 odds!

days 3-8 I think ;)



Day 3 was easy and so enjoyable I more than doubled it. Hugs are a natural part of our relationship, we hug all the time, and it brings us closer. Closer more than physically of course. It reunites us and charges us up too. Who doesn't feel good after a hug?

Day 4 was easy too and had a perk! It told me to give him a kiss first time I see him in the morning. As it turns out he goes to work well before I wake up each day so I did kiss him as soon he walked through the door. The perk you ask? NO morning breath! Woohoo it was great!

Day 5 I tell myself- self- aka Mother of all Things- he works hard for us, and yes sometimes money is tight, like scary tight, like lets get super creative with what is in the pantry tight. But he does what is best for us and he does it to the best of his ability. For those of you who don't know the Father of all Things is a bill payer, like the bills get paid, then we get the groceries, then there are extras. This was not an easy thing to do, I was a grocery, bill extra kind of girl. This used to cause lots of fights, but I have learned to remind myself he does it all for us, and he does it best. Thanks to his way we are able to move, we have good credit, we never had collectors calling. He is doing what is best for us!

Day 6 is easy, seeing as he is not a picky eater and he likes everything I make. But of course there are meals he LOVES. And of course the one he loves best is burgers with my homemade rolls. That being said- I planned far ahead to make sure the rolls were ready when the burgers got pulled off the grill. The smile I saw on his face- through the mustard- was enough that I remember why I make them. He loves it and it is a simple way to show him I care.

Day7 Sweet notes, it is so amazing how much of this we used to do when we were dating. I used to leave notes on his steering wheel all the time. SO I resorted to the old ways and stuck one to his wheel. He texted me and said it made him smile and made his day! Wow this is working!

Day 8 Date night is on the books..... We will see if we can actually make it. More often than not we want to bum around in comfy clothes and have a bonfire. Even given the chance we will choose family time at home over going out. BUT I am determined to go out. It will be coffee but that is good enough for me!


So I am finding this challenge fun, and easy. But it is making me focus on what little thing I can do to help him out and make life easier for him. He is in turn is doing the same thing for me- without even knowing he is doing it.

day 1 and 2 update...

Day 1 and 2 are done and gone. On day one I did ask what can I help you with today, and the Father of all Things told me he really needed help putting the pin shelves up. So together we did it, as a team. As it turns out when I helped him saw, hammer and sand the planks, he in turn had time to help me paint. It was much more enjoyable to paint together, than have him working on his project and me on mine. So day one was a success.

Day 2 was easy for me, I never correct him. I don't see the need, ever. I take it to heart that he has bad spelling but comes to me to help him spell something. It is just part of the Father of all Things, just like he has blue eyes, or a big heart, or drives slow. It is just him. I accept him fully, just as he accepts me and the things he could correct. And mind you I have quiet a few... like the way I say pillow- aka pellow, or milk- aka melk. I think day 2 went well also.

Day 3 is upon us, and I have yet to actually see him seeing as he is working out of town today. The hugging has been a bit hard, but I will make up for it when he gets home tonight. I'll fill you all in tomorrow on how the days challenge goes.

Until then think maybe you could try a few of these, and would it hurt your relationship? Could it help it?

30 Day Challenge

 

So above is a copy of the 30 day challenge that I will be doing for the month of April. This post was written late yesterday, and should have been published but I was so tired I forgot to hit publish. Besides for those of you who know me, would have sworn it was an April fool's joke!

So it is in essence the Mother of all Things to do list for the Month of April. I am curious to see if it make a difference in the relationship between the Mother and Father of all Things? It can't hurt right? Well much, number 29 looks pretty scary (say me while biting my nails).

So here goes nothing I say (while still biting my nails).

Busy Who Me?

Been a bit since the last check in and I wish I could report that the house was on the market, or better yet that it was sold. But alas it still is our 100% ours. But on the flip side Me and the Father of all Things have spruced up this house and made it pretty- ok well I have done a ton of the sprucing. And did you know that sprucing involved washing sap off the siding? Or that it involves painting every surface, vertical and horizontal? Or that it involves putting molding everywhere? Or putting in flooring where there has not been flooring in 33 years, well more than 33 years, it has never been there!

I have never done so many new things. I have never fixed so many old things. And I am thinking that it is preparing me for the next home we will live in. I am now the fixer of all things on top of being the Mother of all Things, and I find I can do it all at the same time! And I even have pictures to prove it!

This is the before shot of my challenge for today.

This is a during shot and yes you see a fire going and Thing 3 the super "helper"

How many hazards can you see in this photo? I see a ton!

And here it is all finished!

Slow but steady the Mother of all Things is going to get us to the country, and in the mean time I ran across a 30 day challenge and it seems like a win win situation. I am going to do a bit more research on it before I announce the details, but lets just say I do believe it it something we should all think about. And for the month of April I will be working on it and updating my progress made.



Spring

Spring is in the air here in Upstate NY, which is odd, seeing as we are normally still fearful of snow this time of year. But this year instead of the regular 123.8 inches of snow we have received a whopping 50.6 inches. WOW! Like WOW WOW! So it seems like spring is here to stay, which for someone who has grown up here for the last 33 years it seems too good to be true. And by here I mean in this very house.

About 5 years ago we bought my childhood house. It needed work, like a bunch of it. Ok more like a ton of it! A bunch of said work was just so it didn't feel like my parents house anymore. I needed it to feel like my home- not my moms. No offense mom ((hugs)). So 5 years ago this was supposed to be a quick stop on our way to the country. Yeah 5 years have come and gone, 1 added child, many many gallons of paint, new carpet, new windows and a furnace later we are on the brink of a season on change. Did I mention we got rid of the giant pond- aka pool so we have a use able backyard? PS Duck have nested on the pool and laid eggs on the deck so pond was very accurate!

Once we had found out we were expecting we knew we had to get a bigger house. And if we were going to move then it had to be to our forever house. Now that we lost Thing 4, we don't really "need" a bigger house, but we do need more space. We need more country, less neighbors, less noise- unless you count a rooster or a cow! So this new season we are looking high and low to find what we want as a family home of our own. It doesn't seem to be an easy search seeing as there are not too many farms on the market, but it will happen when it is supposed to happen.

So these are our newest 2 to 1 odds- selling our house with the correct timing of finding another one. One that has 4 bedrooms, 5 acres, a barn and horse stalls are an added plus. <----- Just in case you know of a place ;)  But to be able to pull it off that means I have to make my very colorful house very very boring, and not be able to put in my vegetable garden- apparently gardens are less desirable than grass. Odd to my mind, but be it that may, I will fake conformity, I will fake cookie cutter, I will fake "normal".

So as we just had the time change, it is time for our lives to change and we too need to spring forward! I will keep you all posted on the adventure as it unfolds. It will prove to be interesting I am sure! And to quote Things 3's favorite tv show- Here we go go go go, on an adventure!